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Just Take a Second…

20 Dec

Have you ever gotten so familiar with someone that you can read your partner’s mood in a split-second? Turns out, there’s actual science behind that.

Who’s In Your “Sphere of Influence”?

30 Nov

When clients come to me in distress about their relationships (which is nearly universal, whether I’m doing individual or couples therapy), one of my first “go-to” conversations is about his/her “sphere of influence.”

I Want You Close… So Watch Me Push You Away

10 Nov

If you took Psychology 101 in college, you likely heard about an experiment in which a researcher studied baby monkeys–would they choose to be with a wire “mother” who gave them food and water or a cloth “mother” who gave them comfort?

Why We Want What We SHOULDN’T Want In a Partner

26 Oct

I may not have a ton of single friends, but I DO have several single clients – and, most (if not all) are looking for love. Real love. Lasting love. Powerful love.

Feel Free to Fantasize!

7 Sep

Perhaps you’ve heard about the value of imagining success – the idea that, if you “practice” something, then you’re more likely to be successful at it. For example, if you imagine yourself running that half marathon and finishing, then you’re more likely to actually DO it. And, do it successfully.

Are You a Marriage “Team Partner”?

3 Aug

The most important “team” you’ll ever find yourself on is in your marriage, so it’s worth investing time and effort into being the best team you can be.

When Did You Last Experience “Leisure?”

20 Jul

When was the last time you looked over the holiday cards you’ve received? Since it’s July, it’s probably been a while. But, think back – what did most of them have in common? The word, “busy.”

What’s in Your Chest of Drawers?

13 Jul

I’ll never forget trying to leave the house when my third child was an infant – as I started to walk out the door, I noticed he was crying (the “I need you now!” cry), and I hesitated to see how quickly my husband would respond. Turns out, he was putting groceries away at that […]

I AM Enough

30 Jun

It’s hard to believe how often our past makes its way into our relationships, but you only need to listen to couples seeking help to find out how much our childhood determines our conflict-style and dynamics.

When Is It Too Late To Save a Marriage?

22 Jun

I get asked the question all the time: When is it too late to save a marriage?