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How Much of Your Happiness Do You Control?

24 Nov

I’ve written a lot about happiness in the past – how to find it, how to keep it, and who has the most of it. But, I’ve rarely written about the happiness “breakdown.” Until now.

In the Wake of Las Vegas…

19 Oct

My husband, Rob, just happened to be in the hotel next to Mandalay Bay when the Las Vegas shooter killed 59 people Sunday night from a hotel room on the 32nd floor. So, suffice it to say, the tragedy hit a little close to home.

If I Were You, I Would…

5 Oct

How many times a day do you come across situations in which you might say to yourself (or out loud), “If I were you, I would…” or “She should…” or ” If he knew what was best for him, he would…”

Why Are We So Afraid of Struggle?

28 Sep

I don’t often get to see my clients during times of joy, peace, and tranquility – instead, I often interact with them during times of trauma, struggle, or pain.

Do Your “Pillars” Stand Strong?

31 Aug

The age-old question, “What makes people truly happy?” has been around for as long as anyone can remember. And, it’s a question that’s stumped many a philosopher, much less a psychologist! But, it seems research has come to the rescue, and we may finally understand what leads to happiness.

Why You Should Treat Yourself Like a Child

10 Aug

As a therapist, I notice a lot of recurring themes in my office. And, one seems to be popping up more and more lately: The idea that we’re supposed be perfect/do things perfectly or else we’re failures. Failing, it seems, isn’t an option these days, and the fear of failure seems to be causing a […]

Are You a Love Addict?

15 Jun

If you’ve been around long enough, you probably know a bit about addiction – at least the kind that involves illicit drugs or alcohol. But, what about love? Is it possible to be a love “addict”? And, if so, what does it mean for those around us?

It only takes 5 minutes

5 Jun

There is definitely a tension between my schedule and me. And sometimes I feel conflicted.

Jealousy and Envy – Can They Be Useful?

1 Jun

Even though jealousy and envy are perfectly normal emotions, for some reason, we have trouble admitting we have them to others (and ourselves, for that matter). Society tells us it’s bad to feel jealous or envious, that those feelings represent some sort of deficiency of self (why else would we refer to jealousy a the […]

Lovin’ a “Mediocre” Life

6 Apr

I don’t often “click here” when someone posts an article on Facebook, but when I saw the topic of a recent article posted by a friend, I just had to see what it was all about. It was called “What If All I Want Is a Mediocre Life?’, and it had me intrigued.